NARCISSIST ABUSE & THE CHAKRAS

This month’s spiritual blog gives you insight on how narcissistic abuse affects the energy throughout your entire physical and energetic bodies.

TRIGGER WARNING: This article contains triggering words about physical and mental abuse. Proceed with caution if you have or are still experiencing abuse. Just know that you are not alone and healing from the abuse is possible.

It’s the age old tale, right?

• The Beauty & The Beast

• The Giver & The Taker

• The Empath & The Narcissist

Maybe it is a twin flame dynamic.

Perhaps it is the matriarch waking up to the confines of the patriarchy.

Whatever it is, victims seem to be emerging from their abusive confines in droves. It seems that as our society is awakening on massive levels, we are realizing just how rampant narcissistic abuse really is.

Narcissism controls some of our relationships, from romantic partners to parents and can even include in-laws, cousins, and friends.

It lives, breathes, and thrives in our workplaces.

And we are constantly being gaslit by the media and social media.

Did you know that narcissistic abuse ACTUALLY causes brain damage? This is scary stuff, so let’s discuss how narcissistic abuse affects our bodies on a physical and energetic level.

HOW DOES NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AFFECT THE CHAKRAS

Chakras are the energetic points along the spine in our physical and energetic bodies that assimilate, process and store information. Each chakra has developmental ages and correlates with specific topics and situations in our lives. When our chakras are off balance, our energy is off, and therefore we do not feel our best. Our chakras store our memories and emotions, so you can imagine that any type of abuse is stored in our energetic field and in our physical body, manifesting as mental and physical ailments.

• ROOT - The Root Chakra is all about our safety, our foundation, our security. Narcissistic abuse does not feel safe. If you’re always walking on eggshells to avoid triggering an outburst from the abuser in your life, then your foundation does not feel solid, YOU do not feel secure in your relationship, which can flow to not feeling safe in other areas of your life. If the narcissistic abuse is coupled with physical abuse, then we don’t feel safe, secure, or balanced in any way. The root chakra is at the bottom of the spine, so when the root chakra is off balance by not feeling safe in our bodies and in our lives, everything else is all off balance.

• SACRAL - The Sacral Chakra is about our creativity, our flow with life, and also our sexual expression. Typically with Narcissistic abuse, you are not free to flow with life or express yourself without being criticized. There is no spontaneity, and mental and emotional abuse usually suffocates your creativity because your thoughts and actions are not about you but instead your thoughts, words, and actions must be solely focused on the narcissist. You cannot use your creativity when you are not given the freedom to do so.

• THROAT - The Throat Chakra works with the Sacral and is the voice and/or expression of what the Sacral creates. The Throat Chakra is not only about us voicing our truth, but also about living and expressing our authentic selves. In a narcissistic relationship, our voices are stifled, our authenticity is often boxed up or put on the back burner. Even when we speak up, we feel unheard because our needs, wants, desires, and dreams are invalidated and our truest selves are often misunderstood because the Narcissist projects their manipulation onto us, painting us to be someone we are not.

• THIRD EYE - The Third Eye Chakra is the home of our intuition. As the Throat works closely with the Sacral, the Third Eye works closely with the Solar Plexus. It helps us to see through the fear, through our ego, and gives us clarity on situations. When you are a victim of narcissistic abuse, you often lie to yourself about the reality of the situation, therefore causing your Third Eye to be calloused over with the lies you so desperately want to believe about this person and about your situation. When you admit to yourself that you are a victim of narcissistic abuse and make the commitment to change the situation in a way that works best for you, you will be shocked at the clarity that you will receive from working with your Third Eye.

• CROWN - It’s no surprise that the Crown and Root work closely together. When the Root is off balance, the Crown Chakra at the top of our heads also becomes unbalanced. The Crown Chakra represents our connection to our higher self and to God, The Universe, whatever higher power you identify with. When it is off-balanced, we do not feel connected to something greater than ourselves - we are not fully open to receive the blessings of The Universe and we are not fully connected to our purpose. Narcissistic abuse makes us feel small, closed off from our loved ones, from the world, and from God and/or something greater. We do not feel alive. Think of a time when you felt alive, inspired, and on fire - your crown chakra was most likely open to receive the incredible, high vibrational energy of The Universe, but when you’re in a narcissistic relationship, it feels as if you have a dark, low-vibrational cloud hovering over you at all times. You don’t feel alive or connected to anything greater because the life has literally been sucked out of you. Instead of being full of life and energy, you are drained, depleted, and defeated.

But wait… there’s more!!

EMPATH VS NARCISSIST

From a spiritual perspective, an empath is a highly sensitive person who feels deeply. We are the givers of the world. We can walk into a room and FEEL the energy of it. We can detect the slightest change in another’s person’s energy because we SPEAK energy, even if you don’t know it.

Whether it is because of their upbringing or some other developmental trait, the narcissist is a taker. I believe that they are also empaths, but because of childhood experiences and trauma, they learned to use their energetic perceptions for something entirely different. They KNOW what you’re thinking. They KNOW that you are a giver, yet they will drain you of all that you are for their own supply.

My clients come to me and say, “why am I such a weak person that I allowed this?”

HONEY… You are NOT a weak person. In fact, if you were a weak person, you would not have attracted a narcissist. They want someone strong, someone who they can depend on because they need your strength, your independence, your everything. You make them look good, and they KNOW that you are too good for them. Because of their own insecurities (from childhood trauma), they don’t want you to know just how good you are because they don’t want to lose you. So in fear of losing you, the break you down so that you feel less than, and from this position, they condition you to feel as if you need them.

They know how good you are. They just don’t want YOU to know how good you are because if you did know your own worth, you would see through their facade and realize that you don’t need them.

While I do understand the inner workings of the narcissist, I’m not convinced that they are conscious of their decisions or not. Some, I definitely think they are aware of their actions. Others, I think their actions are more subconscious. Are they intentionally trying to hurt you? I’m not sure of their intentions, but two things are true: they are broken and you are being hurt by their abusive actions and manipulation.

So let’s discuss this on an energetic and spiritual level…

We are all made up of energy. Energy is what keeps us alive, and once the energy is gone from the body, everything stops working. The empath and the narcissist are both operating from different energetic perspectives, which makes this the perfect storm.

Empaths typically have an overactive Heart Chakra. This means we are givers with little to no boundaries. We often put our needs on the back burner for the sake of everyone else and haven’t learned how to tune into our needs in order to fill our own cups. Our needs may or may not be a priority to us. We are often not steadfast in what we want because we can be happy in many different situations, so we are cool with doing whatever works and makes others happy. We see the best in everyone we meet, and in addition to being “givers,” we are also usually “fixers.” We are the perfect prey from a narcissist.

Narcissists have an under-active heart chakra, meaning they have a hard time letting love in. They often lead with judgment instead of acceptance. For them, love is conditional, and unfortunately, they have most likely never experienced true, real love as a child or in their adult life.

The Solar Plexus Chakra is the seat of our self worth. Fear and ego can cause this chakra to get unbalanced. The giving Empath typically does not have a strong sense of self, or we may be so incredibly giving that we can easily lose ourselves and our true north for the sake of loving another individual.

Our weak sense of self in regard to our undefined Solar Plexus, combined with our Sacral Chakra imbalances, make us the perfect target for the Narcissist. In addition to creativity and going with the flow, the Sacral Chakra governs our emotions, balance, boundaries, money, addictions, and partnerships (especially romantic and sexual partnerships). Whew… these are ALL the things the Narc goes after. We are sitting ducks.

Th Sacral Chakra develops or matures between the ages of 8 and 14. The circumstances and events of our personal lives between these formative years greatly affect the vibration and energy of this chakra. The Solar Plexus chakra develops between the ages of 15 and 21, and relates to lessons of self esteem, ego, will, personal power, choice, and confidence.

Traumas, sexual and/or physical abuse, painful experiences, unhealthy family dynamics and home life, and other events that can cause painful memories or emotions have a serious effect on these energy centers, and also can leave imprints that we are unaware of.

Later in life, as adults, we may manifest relationships and circumstances that are attracted to us through the unhealed energies of the chakras.

The energy imbalances we experience as adolescents are basically an open door for the Narcissist.

THE WORLD NEEDS YOUR BEAUTIFUL SOUL

Don’t let the Narc break you. The world needs empaths. Empaths are healers, unconditional love givers, and those who bring great compassion into a world with so much pain and suffering. Many of these beautiful, sensitive, empathetic souls are disconnected from our true empowerment and purpose. This is why we attract narcissists - we attract reflections and lessons in accordance to where we need healing. Once the empath heals and embodies empowerment, we hold a mighty ability to create great change in the world. It is then that we can become the lights that shine the way out of darkness.

YOU CAN BREAK FREE

There are definite steps and methods for healing the trauma of narcissistic abuse on the chakras and our physical bodies and in our lives. Gaining freedom and manifesting true empowerment is very attainable, even though you may feel hopeless right now.

A high percentage of my clients are narcissistic abuse survivors, as am I. I offer guidance and support with a wide-range of healing modalities.

HERE’S HOW MY CLIENTS FEEL BEFORE COACHING:

• Isolated

• Broken

• Unhappy

• Unsure of who they are

• No sense of self-worth

• Angry

• Shameful

• Embarrassed

• Lost

• Overwhelmed with emotions they’ve buried for so long

HOW THEY FEEL DURING THE COACHING EXPERIENCE:

• Healing

• Growing

• Living with Passion & Creativity

• Learning how to find joy

• Learning how to love themselves

• Cultivating peace

• Laughing again

• Creating a toolbox of resources for their development

• Discovering Who they are in this chapter of their lives

• Focusing on their wellbeing

• Finding their strength

• Setting boundaries with people who drain from their happiness (not just the narcissist)

• Exploring new hobbies that add to the overall health of their mind, body & spirit

If you or a loved one is experiencing or has experienced narcissistic, mental, emotional, and/or physical abuse, Spiritual Life Coaching, Chakra Coaching, Sound Healing, and Guided Meditation are incredibly beneficial techniques to help a person overcome their trauma.

Are you ready to heal? I offer a 30 minute complimentary phone consultation. Contact me today and let's get the conversation started on how coaching can help you heal.

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